Today we’d like to introduce you to Lee Campbell.
Lee, let’s start with your story. We’d love to hear how you got started and how the journey has been so far.
At the age of 17, I entered into the longest relationship of my life. It was with a man, or should I say a boy, who fooled me into believing that he had the same determination to reach his goals as I did. Seven long years later I decided that I wanted more out of life and I left him for good! Once I did, I thought I was extremely bitter!
I was devastated to realize how much time I had spent with the man and I vowed to break the hearts of as many men as I could, just as they have done with women since the beginning of time. As I began “revenge dating” I realized something peculiar.
It wasn’t that all men were liars and cheaters, it’s that women seemed to be either ignoring what the guy was saying like, ” I’m not interested in a relationship,” or they were ignoring the fact that his words and his actions never seemed to align. From my many dating experiences, the idea for my first book, Bae: The Three Types of Men was born. From my dating experiences, my first book was born.
We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
Ironically it is through writing a book about relationships that I have dealt with the most relationship problems of my entire life! There were times where I was so depressed by the actions of the people I loved that I would stop writing for weeks. Instead, I would stay in bed and watch television shows about people in prison as I felt that they were the only ones who understood my struggle. I have had my heart broken, been betrayed by family and friends, almost lost my job and was kicked out of my house. Through it all, I kept writing. That is the most important thing about chasing your dreams, despite your obstacles, you must keep going!
We’d love to hear more about your business.
My book is all about helping women understand both themselves and the men in their lives. My philosophy is that as a woman learns to love herself that she will be able to love others and accept them where ever they may be in life. I believe that in our community that men and women have historically been taught to hate one another and I am ready to change that narrative.
Within this book, you will be introduced to the three types of men including The Lost Bae, a man still trying to find himself and his purpose, The Bae of Wall Street a career focused and financial leader and Breakfast at Bae’s, the family-oriented and spiritually inclined man of your dreams. Each one of these men has their own needs and within this book, I am teaching women exactly how to love them.
What were you like growing up?
All my life I’ve been a little different. I grew up without siblings, on a Hawaiian island while my single mother worked in the Air Force. Raising me alone one of the most important lessons that my mother taught us how to be independent. From watching her, I learned that I could make my own money and from an early age, I HUSTLED! I was too young to work, so all through middle and high school I sold anything that I could get my hands on. I would drag my mom to the local warehouse every weekend and with my allowance, we would stack up on candy, chips, and sodas that I would pack up in my book bag and sell to the other kids in class.
Being financially solvent at that age boosted my confidence incredibly and I couldn’t wait until I was old enough to start my own business. After high school ended though, I got a reality check. I learned that making money in the real world wasn’t as easy as selling snacks to my peers at lunchtime and I realized that to pay my bills I would have to get an ACTUAL job. So the summer after my first year in college, I started working full time at a bank downtown and while I enjoyed the money, I HATED working there.
The hours were long, the people were boring and did I mention that the hours were long?
After two months, I quit that awful job and vowed to NEVER work a full-time job making someone else’s dream come true, ever again. After I left there, I bounced around from job to job, never feeling fulfilled and still fantasizing about owning my own company one day. I tried my hands at different things, but nothing seemed to stick and I was tired of being BROKE. During my time of indirection, I was also in a dead end relationship and after dropping out of college, to pursue my business, I found myself lost misguided and depressed.
Not because the boy wasn’t nice or faithful, I was unhappy because I was completely BORED. Bored with routine, bored with work, bored with cleaning his house, cooking his dinner and rolling his blunts. I wanted MORE out of life because I knew all of the fantastic things that could happen if I tried. After leaving the military, my mother got a high paying job and was able to afford a luxury lifestyle.
As a young child, I traveled all around the world, lived in nice neighborhoods and drove fancy cars. I guess you could say that the same bug that’s in me came from her. That anxious feeling like, “is this is?”
Even though to the outside world, she had a nice salary, a nice home and a life that most African American women could not afford on their own, my mother was unsatisfied. She hated working for someone else and wanted more out of life. So what did she do? She took a huge risk and quit her high salary job to start her own business.
It was a life-changing moment that would have an impact on me forever. Because of my upbringing, I refused to settle. So after seven years I left that relationship and moved back into my mama’s house. From there I began to study men and exactly what made them tick and that is what made me interested in being an author! Last June after two and half years of writing, I finally was able to self-published my book on Amazon and ever since life has become amazing!
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