Today we’d like to introduce you to Tamika Michelle Johnson.
Hi Tamika, thanks for sharing your story with us. To start, maybe you can tell our readers some of your backstory.
Sure. From the time I was a teenager, I knew that I wanted to be an attorney, marry, and have children – in that order and all in my 20’s. However, life did not go as initially planned. I thought that I was a “good catch,” yet I was struggling in dating and relationships. I dated a lot but found it challenging to get involved in a mutually exclusive relationship with someone that I really liked. Then, after my first year of law school, I got pregnant and became a single mother from the time my daughter was born. Although difficult, I finished law school in the next few years and became an attorney.
Shortly before I became an attorney though, I had an epiphany as to why I wasn’t emotionally connecting with men in relationships. That realization allowed me to change a few things in my approach to dating and shortly thereafter I entered into a 10-year, albeit, unhealthy relationship, with a man who was, in my opinion, a great father to his children, but not a great partner for me at that point in his life. By the time I reached my mid-30’s, I was successful in my career and finances and everything looked good on the outside, but I was suffering inside because of my relationship.
Stressed, depressed, and lonely I would intermittently reach out to friends and colleagues about my relationship woes, only to find out that there were a lot of other successful, good, beautiful women who were also involved in unhealthy relationships, situationships, or just no significant relationship at all.
Despite spending 10 years of my life trying to turn that relationship around, I decided to throw in the towel and finally choose myself. We ended that relationship for the umpteenth time, but that time for good. It was one of the hardest decisions that I had to make because I was so in love with my former partner and feared that I might be single for the rest of my life, but I knew I deserved better. If nothing else, I deserved peace.
So, after leaving, I went through an extraordinary life-changing emotional, mental, and spiritual transformation that led me to marry my amazing husband and have 2 healthy children over the age of 40 years old.
Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?
It never is, right? The first struggle is that I have to continuously balance life as an attorney, newly married, young children, the pandemic, loss of parents, AND pursuing a new business venture in an area that I am very passionate about, which for me is dating and relationships. Establishing boundaries and time for yourself to refresh is key.
Another main struggle was when I initially launched “Platinum Connections” I had an issue connecting with potential clients. The reality is, as a successful woman who is used to overcoming almost every barrier that she faces and dominating it in her respective career or business, we don’t want to admit that we need help when it comes to our personal lives. We don’t want to admit that we’re scared of being alone and so we tolerate unacceptable behavior from partners thinking that we can change the other person and how they treat us. We don’t want to admit failure, so we stay in unhealthy relationships.
So, as I was rethinking my approach, I began to connect with other highly successful innovators and entrepreneurs who are extremely accomplished. After telling my journey and dating strategies to them, both men and women tell me how needed my matchmaking and coaching services are for professionals. I share business strategies to apply to be successful and efficient in dating, and that resonates with very focused, business-minded individuals.
As you know, we’re big fans of Platinum Connections. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about the brand?
“Platinum Connections” was founded upon the principal belief that “Extraordinary Women Have Great Relationships with Extraordinary Men!” And we’re all about transforming women from “Successful & Single to Marvelous & Married” through several services, including:
Matchmaking – For those men and women who value their time and don’t want to waste any more of it going through online dating profiles or swiping right, matchmaking is perfect for them. We sit down with you to get to know you, your values, and what you are looking for in a potential partner and introduce you to matches who fit your preferences.
Singles Events – When you want to meet and mingle with other single professionals in your area, our singles events are great. All of our singles events have an equal number of men and women to even the playing field so all participants can enjoy a fun evening out and meet other professional men and women.
Dating Coaching – Coaching is beneficial for all of our clients, whether you have a problem meeting men or not. In either case, we work with clients to transform their approach to dating and relationships in our coaching program for you to attract and emotionally connect with other quality partners for long-term relationships.
Even as we continue to grow, I’m so proud of the fact that I’m able to offer personalized service to all my clients so that they’re comfortable in knowing that I really understand what they’ve been through in past relationships and what they are looking for in the future. We don’t just match you with anyone just to say that we did, and I pride myself in knowing that potential matches are vetted so our clients have good dating experiences, even if it doesn’t end up in a relationship. “Platinum Connections” has also allowed me to change lives as a Relationship Speaker sharing with audiences “The Business of Dating” and “Successfully Navigating Your Career & Love Simultaneously.”
How do you think about luck?
As an attorney for over 15 years, I’ve had the good fortune and luck to have had a solid network of high-performing and net worth individuals in my circle even before I launched “Platinum Connections.” For years I was already connected with other attorneys, judges, politicians, accomplished academic educators, and entrepreneurs. That means that from the beginning, I started off with a personal database of successful professionals, which is a great draw for my clients who are not in the legal industry for potential matches. That alone attracted other successful men and women in other industries to join my network and database as well. That’s been a blessing, to say the least.
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