Today we’d like to introduce you to Darwynn McPherson
Alright, so thank you so much for sharing your story and insight with our readers. To kick things off, can you tell us a bit about how you got started?
I am Darwynn McPherson
I am an expert on relationship compatibility and self improvement.
I help people embrace the outcomes they desire in relationships, select a partner that compliments their desires, and build habits of looking for ways to improve themselves each day for companionship and well being.
My vision is to have a world where couples love and appreciate who they choose and a world where people continue to be the best version of themselves which always gives them the outcomes they desire in relationships.
I’ve helped hundreds of people through consultations, my video content has been seen by millions of people across multiple platforms, and I believe my work has made a difference in the world.
What motivated me to focus my content around helping men and women thrive in dating and relationships is strongly connected to my upbringing and past experiences.
Imagine a young child growing up in a broken home, some identify broken homes as home without both parents. Well, I had neither! Most children at least have their mother raising them. My father had moved on and remarried, and my mother was running the streets.
The 1980s in Cleveland, Ohio was not for the weak. You would either be sucked into using weed or crack cocaine as a recreational drug, or be thrust into gang violence.
Luckily I had an Aunt who didn’t want to see me, my twin sister, and my 3 brothers thrown into foster care.
But living with a single Aunt had more cons than it had pros.
Pros – we got to be around our cousins we love so much.
Cons – We missed our parents, and the way we were treated by our Aunt, it was clear we were not her children.
We weren’t mature or wise enough to know we was suppose to be treated better. We quickly learned by observing the difference between how she treated her own vs us. This was the early 90s up until late 90s.
Once my grandfather passed away, we all relocated to live with my Grandmother in Alabama.
My Grandmother had 3 daughters and 2 sons. 1 son was serving the police force, the other son, a 20 year armed robbery sentence and the 3 daughters including my mother, were hooked on crack cocaine with multiple baby fathers by the early 2000s.
As a kid i never wondered why my aunts and uncle made poor decisions, sadly I thought it was how normal people behave. Then i learned as an adult it wasn’t normal and they never told their stories to us, mainly because of shame and lack of accountability.
I also learned that when they were children, access to drugs and alcohol was prevalent in the household while my Grandfather was at work. My Grandmother R.I.P. was culpable in her children’s demise early on.
Allowing them to smoke cigarettes, weed, and drink alcohol as teenagers had took away any chance of her kids flourishing in the future.
My back story so far may seem odd that it isn’t about racism. Although there was systemic issues, none of those issues forced my family that raised me to make poor decisions.
Ok back to where we left off. Saint Stephens, Alabama was a better life for me, but got worse for my aunts. They have fully embraced being crack heads and had no shame.
I begin to associate with relatives and friends who had a passion for sports. I got into Baseball, Basketball, and Football. Thanks to one of my childhood friends by the name of Herman Chapman, i was able to recognize and embrace how a stable family and successful marriage operated.
While Herman was dreaming of playing college after H.S. I was dreaming of having parents like his.
Me and him became best friends, and his parents looked at me as if i were one of their own.
They’re love for me sparked a feeling inside of me i had no idea existed. I never knew how it felt to be loved, and not just love, father and son, and mother and son love. Something i had been neglected of since i were a child.
They took me under their wing, and made sure that after H.S. they would guide me into becoming a successful man. This is why i signed up to the U.S. Army Active Duty. The sky was the limit after that.
When i got of the military i was a bit indecisive on what i wanted to do. I read books about black activist, i watched breaking news about police brutality, and the impact of racial discrimination on black people.
This peaked my interest so i begin to join discussions about it, but there was problem.
We could never come to a solid solution. Most people i spoke with were convinced that reparations for ADOS was the only thing that could bring black people together and heal the wounds of slavery.
In my opinion you can’t heal the wounds of slavery, and you reparations would be the biggest stimulus check in world history. Yes i agree we are owed, and its our prerogative to what we want with our check.
But if you look at who owns all the things we would spend our money own, we would be just giving the money back to other races and the money would fail to circulate in the black community.
So I asked myself, if my family had reparations back then would there be any difference?
I thought long and hard, Yes it would but the conditions would have been much worse.
Our family had wealth when my Grandfather was on his A game.
We had everything, that wasn’t enough to keep everyone in line.
So i asked myself, what was missing in my child hood?
Our parents didn’t value relationships! We didn’t value the nuclear family! We didn’t prioritize raising children to be the best they can. Our households were broken and there was no leadership. There was no cooperation.
Then it dawned in on me. It was the family! The family has deviated from tradition. No one honored principles and standards in our family.
So i made it my goal to find a way and build a family to change the trajectory. I became a husband and a father.
I discovered methods, systems, and principles that resulted in relationship success.
I practice it every day and instill it in my children.
I was no longer confused on what i wanted to do. I joined discussions on relationship topics (Lapeef Network – YouTube). Society has literally destroyed the family dynamic. Its like the devil has infiltrated the essence of commitment and cooperation between a man and a woman. Confused man and woman and divided their attention.
It got worse and worse. A combination of movements, social media, and pornography gave the devil steroids to the point where men and women have turned away from each other all together and focused on individuality.
I knew what i wanted to do, and i became passionate about fixing relationship issues. So I embraced mentors like Kevin Samuels and The Style OG (YouTube). These men influenced me to respect and appreciate image. Kevin taught me how to change myself from being a liability to being an asset.
With my connection to God and these mentors, i knew what my calling was, it was to reach my brothers and sisters and try my best to get them back in line, at least the ones who were willing to listen.
So i became a content creator. I became a certified image consultant and dating compatibility expert. So being a veteran, husband, and father wasn’t my only credibility.
I speak from integrity and i do it weekly on my YouTube channel.
Thanks – so what else should our readers know about your work and what you’re currently focused on?
I am an expert on relationship compatibility and self improvement.
I help people embrace the outcomes they desire in relationships, select a partner that compliments their desires, and build habits of looking for ways to improve themselves each day for companionship and well being.
My vision is to have a world where couples love and appreciate who they choose and a world where people continue to be the best version of themselves which always gives them the outcomes they desire in relationships.
I’ve helped hundreds of people through consultations, my video content has been seen by millions of people across multiple platforms, and I believe my work has made a difference in the world.
Do you have any advice for those looking to network or find a mentor?
Yes,
First you have to work out the outcomes you want in life.
Surround yourself around people who have reached those outcomes and network.
During the interactions ask questions about how they achieved their goals and how you can do the same.
Write down all the task that is necessary to complete and draw out a plan.
If you lack discipline you should hire a mentor that can meet with you frequently to keep you motivated and on task.
This worked for me.
Pricing:
- 1:1 Consultations – $50.00 (1hr)
Contact Info:
- Website: https://darwynn-mcpherson.ck.page/06ee73377f
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darwynnmcpherson/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialDarwynnMcPherson/
- Twitter: https://x.com/iamDarwynn
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@darwynnmcpherson
- Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/darwynnmcpherson
- Other: https://www.tiktok.com/@darwynnmcpherson?lang=en
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