Today we’d like to introduce you to Dominique Kight.
Hi Dominique, please kick things off for us with an introduction to yourself and your story.
I grew up being a part of a step family household with my mother, stepfather, and three brothers. My father lived outside of the household in a whole other state and so I always felt like the odd man out. I wasn’t treated that way but, of course growing up, that is how I felt. My parents had a very toxic co-parenting relationship and that spilled over to me, causing me to carry a lot of resentment. Being young, I felt pulled in different directions as I was trying to figure out who I was supposed to be loyal to. At the age of 19, I became a single mother to a son and repeated the same toxic cycle I had witnessed between my parents growing up. I was in a situation where I was trying to co-parent with someone that I barely knew as I continued to grow into an adult. That was rough! I had to mature and figure out how to navigate raising a son with someone that I was no longer in relationship with. It definitely wasn’t the life that I had imagined for myself. Flash forward six years, I met my husband, who turned out to be a divorced single father of two. I was very intrigued with the situation and dived in headfirst in love. Thinking back, I can consider our relationship to be the unofficial start of Finding the Blend. I now find myself in a place where I was now a mom, stepmom, coparent, and soon to be wife. I went on a journey that was filled with excitement, angst, frustration, optimism, disappointment, uncertainty, and, at times, pure madness. Not only was I dealing with my own coparenting drama, I was now dealing with a bitter ex-wife and that was very difficult to navigate. I journaled to express my frustrations and those entries turned into podcast episodes and advice for other people.
Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way. Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
The experience of being a stepmom has certainly been one of self-discovery and growth. Through it all, I was determined to create a place within my new family. Was this experience difficult? Yes. The better question would be, was it worth it? The answer to that would have to be absolutely!! I struggled in the beginning with feelings of insecurity concerning if I fit into my new family. I knew I wasn’t there to take anyone’s place but I also realized that I had a responsibility to both the kids and my partner. There were many times that I felt disrespected by the kid’s mother and, in some ways, unprotected from it all by my partner. Truthfully, I had no idea how to navigate my own emotions of how to find my purpose in the life that we were creating. The kids were absolutely amazing and accepted me almost immediately. They were very young but understood that their mother was no longer there. I, in turn, understood that it wasn’t my job to take their mom’s place but to fill the void and be what they needed me to be in order to be ok. My son had a little more difficulty with the transition because he was older and was being fed some toxicity from his dad. In that situation, I was doing damage control to battle against the negative influences that were being unfairly fed to him by someone that he looked up to. There were also feelings that my partner had to resolve within himself about his last relationship and where he was mentally at that time. I would say that the beginning of our family was a difficult transition for everyone.
Great, so let’s talk business. Can you tell our readers more about what you do and what you think sets you apart from others?
Finding the Blend LLC is something that I am EXTREMELY proud of. It is a business that was created out of the release of some difficult emotions and is now being used to help blended families, and specifically stepmoms, navigate their new roles. At that time, I had no idea where to go for helpful resources, so in a sense I created my own platform to help cope with what can be a difficult situation. I coach stepmoms on how to find their lanes within their role as bonus moms and new partners, couples who are transitioning into a step family dynamic, individuals who are dating and have children, individuals who need assistance creating boundaries with co-parenting and other step family-related topics. I offer custom coaching packages tailored to the needs of my clients, which are determined during the course of a one hour discovery call that can be booked with me.
Finding the Blend Podcast offers listeners the opportunity to hear about the journeys of not only stepmoms trying to navigate blended family life but also the different perspectives and issues surrounding this lifestyle. This podcast evolved from a series of journal entries in which I bring guests on to discuss their viewpoints and experiences. It is a raw and transparent look at something that has become a normal way of life. It is important to note that even though this family dynamic has become very prevalent, it still carries the stigma of being broken. Finding the Blend Podcast aims to change the stigma that surrounds step-parents and the step-family dynamic. Recently, Finding the Blend has been invited to partner with a DTN radio, a platform that embraces the creative mind. I’m super excited about this partnership because it will give FTB the chance to reach a broader audience and be on a platform that will expand the capabilities that we have now to provide our audience with additional resources. —- REMOVE ALL.
In terms of your work and the industry, what are some of the changes you are expecting to see over the next five to ten years?
Life Coach services have become a more respected and prevalent business over the past few years. There are Life Coaches for everything under the sun and I do not foresee that changing, I see this industry continuing to grow exponentially. Life Coach services can be considerably cheaper than therapy and often offer a more hands on approach to self-improvement. Within my business, I make my clients accountable for their weekly goals by providing insight work for them to complete that will force them to look into their own habits and mindsets. As a life coach, it is our responsibility to cause a shift in the mindset that will ignite change in our clients.
Pricing:
- Free 1 Hour Discovery Call
Contact Info:
- Email: dominiquek@
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