Britnee Alphin shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Hi Britnee, thank you so much for joining us today. We’re thrilled to learn more about your journey, values and what you are currently working on. Let’s start with an ice breaker: Are you walking a path—or wandering?
Honestly, I’m laying in a field of grass staring at the sky trying to decide if frolicking through life is the way or actually giving a damn and trying is the way. When you’re in a season of survival you don’t really have time to think or process you just go and do. This time around being in survival, I’ve learned how to take a step back and force myself to calmly walk through the fire that is my life at times. Some days that looks like wandering and smelling the roses and other times I’m briskly walking with intention to the goal.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hey Loves! I’m Britnee Alphin, socially known as britneewithlove— Wife, Mommy, lifestyle creator, media personality in the making, and woman who has lowkey reinvented herself about 15 times and counting. After my VSG surgery, I didn’t just lose weight — I lost the version of me who thought I had to wait until everything was “perfect” to start living. I found my voice and purpose after losing over 125 Ibs. of suppressed potential and now I live everyday with intention.
Now, I’m on a mission to help women bloom boldly (and imperfectly) into the next version of themselves — while laughing, healing, and thriving out loud.
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
Growing up my Mom would tell me “Britnee you’re strong, the devil can’t break you” and after many years of being broken I realized that I am, in fact, not one of God’s strongest soldiers. I ain’t the weakest link but I’m not the one equipped for the front lines. Life taught me that being strong isn’t a badge of honor to wear proudly. It’s actually a mask people wear to protect their feelings, heart and keep things manageable for them. I get it but I rather be real. I am not strong. I cry and take a nap at the smallest inconvenience. I care how people receive me and I carry the load when they don’t receive me the way I intend or make up a narrative about me based on their own projections not the “Britnee facts”. I feel my feelings loudly and I like knowing that there are people ready and willing to hold space for me and my feelings. I’m sensitive, I’m raw and sometimes I’m even a bit scared. Strong? No. But I’m resilient and I won’t quit if I truly believe in whatever I’m supporting.
If you could say one kind thing to your younger self, what would it be?
You matter. You matter in all the imperfect ways, all the becoming ways, all the silent ways and all the big ways. Your voice matters. When you truly come into who you are you will learn how to show up for yourself without feeling guilty and still have room to hold space for others. You ARE a good person with a big and kind heart but unfortunately there are many wounded people that can’t see you past their own projections— that’s not your problem. Keep being you. Keep being iconic. There are people for you that will love you for you without any notes or edits— I haven’t met them yet but I have a gut feeling that they exist in Los Angeles.
Alright, so if you are open to it, let’s explore some philosophical questions that touch on your values and worldview. Is the public version of you the real you?
I love this question! Living in a social media world, people tend to blur the lines between the real them and the digital version of them. Lucky for the world, I am in the rare 2% of humans that is exactly who I am publicly and privately. I’ve been this way my entire life because I can’t keep up with lies about who I am. Pretending to be someone you aren’t (or only being part of you) indicates that you aren’t pleased with who you truly are. Fluffy or skinny, single or married, money or no money I love who I am. I love who I show up as every day and that light isn’t worth dimming for people who I probably won’t see tomorrow. I choose to be me in every room because I rather be loved for who I am rather than the masked stranger someone thinks I am. That’s too much work, I barely remember to take my vitamins!
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. What do you understand deeply that most people don’t?
That life is truly what you make it. You don’t have to attach yourself to every moment, feeling, person, place and thing. You can quite frankly just experience all that without creating an internal imprint of it.
For example, people attach themselves to breakups or losing their job. Spoiler alert: this is all a simulation. Play the game and keep moving forward. Feel your feelings— that’s your human right. But after that keep going. That breakup wasn’t created to break you but to teach you to detach from things that no longer align with you even if they once did. That job loss? Moved to the side to make room for you to follow the path that’s better for you! Don’t attach to the human stuff that HAS to happen to force your purposed path forward. Acknowledge it as a stepping stone, shake off the excess and go. Living a detached life isn’t one of those “easier said than done” things… it takes intentional healing work to understand detachment in a way that doesn’t make you feel nonchalant or callous but more-so like a spectator of your life rather than a participant that has feel everything or put meaning to everything. Just let it be.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://britneewithlove.com
- Instagram: https://instagram.com/britneewithlove
- Youtube: https://youtube.com/kindabloomed
- Other: https://tiktok.com/@britneewithlove
