Today we’d like to introduce you to J.P. Hawkins.
Hi J.P., we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today?
I’m the CEO and founder of Stand Your Crown. I’m a Transformational Coach specializing in Domestic Violence. My focus is on woman who are going through or survived Domestic Violence and wanting to reclaim their lives.
Have you ever felt like the words “abuse me” was written on your forehead? As if people could see the residue of pain that stained your inner and outer being.
In 2019, I hit rock bottom. I was in a dark mental space and broken, I was in a place where I wanted my life to end. I felt the world was buried on my shoulders and there was no solutions for the difficult emotional state I was facing. I believe that in 2019 I’ve gotten to the point of being sick and tired. Going through 35 years of physical, mental, emotional, verbal and being sexually abuse not one time but three times. Living and snowy dying on the inside, not addressing the rut, the initial pain that started it all that multiplied more pain that has caused bad decision making that brought destruction in my life.
I’ve gotten to the point to stop denying the truth. The truth that I was broken and bruised. When you don’t recognize that your life struggles comes from the residue of hurt and pain that you have suppressed deep down in the gut of your stomach, it eats away at you everyday without you realizing that you are diminishing. I continued to ask myself through the 35 years of abuse, “Why me?” Do I carry a fragrance that has marked me for life?” “Why must my life be so hard?” Then it hit me.
The little girl that lost her innocence at the precious age of 6 carried a damaged soul for 35 years. See my domestic and sexual abuse started at a very young age. Childhood trauma that affected my adulthood which almost led me to my grave.
What inspired me to birth “Stand Your Crown” and pursue what I am standing for today… was my abusive marriage. A marriage that started out to be loving and I was important. Which later led to verbal, mental, emotional and physical abuse. My ex-husband was very abusive towards me. Regardless of how my ex-husband disguised himself in public, behind closed doors I was domestically drained.
I’m sure you wouldn’t say it’s been obstacle free, but so far would you say the journey have been a fairly smooth road?
No. It hasn’t been a smooth road for me. The struggles that I have experienced:
Rapes
Molestation by family members
Abused by Parents
Homelessness living on the streets, eating out of trash cans, living in shelters
Abused in all my relationships
2 failed Marriages – (1) Criminal & (2) Abusive
Single parent Raising five daughters
Mother Died at 40
Brother killed at 18
As you know, we’re big fans of you and your work. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about what you do?
I’m a Federal Police Officer “Lieutenant” in Washington, DC Government. I work with male and female offenders. I am known to be a Leader with integrity unwavering commitment to moral and ethical values.
I oversee operations in the Re-Entry Sanction Center. Cooperating in law enforcement investigations, monitoring internal activities within the facility, and ensuring the safety and security of the premises.
I would have to say the thing I am most proud of is that I am a person who always wants to challenge myself and take tough roles and duties. Achieving the desired results out of tough tasks gives me immense satisfaction and motivates me to work harder and take up even more such challenges.
What sets me apart from others is my mental agility. To have the ability to evaluate and understand my surroundings at all times and anticipate what’s ahead. This enables me to think quickly on my feet, especially in the face of danger.
We’re always looking for the lessons that can be learned in any situation, including tragic ones like the Covid-19 crisis. Are there any lessons you’ve learned that you can share?
One of the most important lessons I learned due to the Covid-19 is to take care of myself and devote more time to myself. Also, to live everyday as its my last and to not be afraid to live as I deserve.
Contact Info:
- Email: standyourcrown@gmail.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/j_p_hawkins/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/quila.walker.1/
Image Credits
Image Credits by – Milton Lawrence
