Today we’d like to introduce you to Tammy Bowe-LaCroix.
Tammy, we appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us today. Where does your story begin?
I was on track for law school. That was the plan. I was working, selling luxury real estate and about to enroll in my final semester of college. I had received a conditional acceptance into law school contingent on completing that last semester but my life, however, had other plans, and it changed very quickly. I met my husband, we were engaged within two months, and then married four months later.
Between 2018 and 2019, I had two babies. Two. Back to back. So while I was technically still “on track,” and had a real path, my reality looked very different than what I had imagined. Then COVID hit. Campuses shut down, the world paused, and during that season of uncertainty, my law school acceptance became real on paper but complicated in practice. Accepting it would have meant uprooting my family, relocating to a state I had never lived in, and navigating law school with two very small children. I found myself asking a question I never expected to ask: just because I can do this, does that mean I should?
At the same time, I was wrestling with postpartum depression and something far less talked about in faith spaces. Marriage had exposed how deeply purity culture had shaped my understanding of intimacy. I had lived life, made choices, and yet once married, I felt confused, restricted, and disconnected in the very place that was supposed to feel safe and holy. I realized I did not actually know what God designed intimacy to be. So I did what I have always done when something does not make sense. I went looking for answers.
That search led me into scripture, study, prayer, and some very uncomfortable conversations. One night, in the early hours of the morning I was restless. I was reminded of something I had done years earlier while I was in college. I used to host “demo” parties to earn extra income. I had walked away from it once I became more established in my faith, but in that moment, it was clear the assignment had not disappeared. It had simply matured. This time, the call was to serve married and mature Christian adults who were silently struggling with intimacy, desire, and shame.
I woke my husband up around three or four in the morning and said babe, “I think God is calling me into the sex industry.” Half asleep, he said, “Okay,” rolled over, and went back to sleep. That next morning, I had started my business.
What began as small gatherings quickly became deep, faith-centered conversations, education, and healing work. That calling eventually grew into coaching, speaking, and creating resources that help couples reconnect with each other and with God. I did not walk away from law. I walked into purpose and out of it came The Marriage Lab LLC. The path just looked nothing like the one I originally planned but it was God’s plan.
We all face challenges, but looking back would you describe it as a relatively smooth road?
Has it been a smooth road? Absolutely not. Not even a little.
As you can imagine, being a Christian woman who openly helps people navigate their sex lives comes with resistance. I sit at an intersection that makes people uncomfortable. Faith and sexuality are still treated as opposites, even though they were never meant to be. People want the information, but they do not always know how to ask for it. There is still a great deal of shame, guilt, and silence around intimacy, especially within faith communities. For many, “good Christians” are not supposed to talk about what happens in the bedroom, let alone ask questions about it.
That tension shows up in very practical ways. Some churches invite me to speak and encourage me to bring resources. Others say, “You can come talk, but do not bring any products.” There is often an underlying concern about whether the message will be biblically sound or if it will feel inappropriate simply because it addresses sex at all. I understand the hesitation. We live in a sexualized culture, and discernment matters. But that tension highlights the deeper issue. We have not done a good job teaching believers how to talk about intimacy in a way that is healthy, holy, and informed.
What I have learned along the way is that silence does not equal purity. It equals confusion. Through this work, I have heard countless stories from individuals and couples who have struggled quietly for years because tradition taught them to endure rather than understand. Research shows that roughly one in two women experience some form of sexual dysfunction, and about one in three men do as well. Those numbers matter. That means these struggles are not rare. They are common, and they deeply impact marriages.
The mission of The Marriage Lab is to bring education, clarity, and biblical understanding to an area that has been neglected for far too long. It exists to help people embrace sexuality the way God designed it, without shame, without fear, and without misinformation. The road has not been easy, but it has been necessary. Every conversation confirms what I already know. This work is uncomfortable for some, but it is healing for many.
Thanks – so what else should our readers know about The Marriage Lab LLC?
The Marriage Lab is a faith-based education and resource hub created to help individuals and couples experience intimacy, connection, and wholeness without shame. We do this through a combination of education, conversation, coaching, and thoughtfully curated products that support emotional and physical connection.
At the center of the brand are two foundational books. Hey God, Can I? is designed as a textbook for the marriage bed. It provides biblical clarity, education, and language around intimacy for married couples who want to understand sex as God intended it, without fear or confusion. The book addresses topics many people were never taught how to talk about and equips couples with understanding they can actually apply in real life.
The second book, Hey God, Can We Talk?, focuses on identity, healing, and reconnection. It is designed for individuals who feel like they have lost themselves, whether single or married. Many people enter marriage carrying unresolved wounds, unspoken expectations, or the belief that they must shrink to survive. This book offers actionable steps to help readers rediscover who they are, rebuild confidence, and create healthier relationships with themselves, God, and others.
Education also happens through the Sex Ed for Saints podcast, where I host honest, faith-centered conversations about intimacy, communication, and marriage. The podcast serves as an entry point for many, opening the door to deeper learning through workshops, coaching programs, speaking engagements, and educational resources connected to both books. We also offer curated intimacy products that complement education and encourage intentional connection, not as novelties, but as tools.
What sets The Marriage Lab apart is our integrated approach. We teach, we talk, and we walk people through the process. Whether someone encounters us through a book, the podcast, coaching, or a workshop, the goal is the same. Healing, clarity, and connection. Brand-wise, I am most proud that The Marriage Lab has become a trusted space where people feel safe enough to ask questions they have carried for years and supported enough to grow beyond them.
Before we let you go, we’ve got to ask if you have any advice for those who are just starting out?
If I had to give advice to someone just starting out, it would be this. Get clear on what you are building and why you are building it. Clarity matters more than confidence in the beginning. No matter what industry you are in or what path you choose, everything worth pursuing will require courage. And courage only shows up when you are sure about where you are headed.
Opposition is not a sign that something is wrong. It is part of the process. When you are doing work that stretches you, challenges norms, or pushes you outside of what is familiar, resistance will come. That is inevitable. What keeps you going in those moments is not motivation. It is conviction. When you are clear on your purpose in that season, you will have the drive to keep moving even when things feel uncomfortable or uncertain.
I also believe the right work should expand you, not shrink you. Whether it is a career, a business, or a personal calling, it should allow you to grow into who you are becoming. Do not be afraid to pursue the thing that feels bigger than you. Growth rarely feels safe, but it is often where you discover what you are capable of.
If you are willing to be clear, courageous, and committed, the rest can be learned along the way.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.yourmarriagelab.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themarriagelabllc/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candidtalkswithtammy
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Sex-Edforsaintspodcast
- Other: https://beacons.ai/themarriagelabllc
