Today we’d like to introduce you to Chavonne White.
Hi Chavonne, it’s an honor to have you on the platform. Thanks for taking the time to share your story with us – to start maybe you can share some of your backstory with our readers?
Absolutely! Over time, I’ve realized that life has this remarkable, almost mystifying way of guiding us when we’re willing to embrace vulnerability and surrender to the process. For years, I believed in the power of taking action, even if it meant making moves impulsively, without fully understanding their impact. I was driven by an urgent need for change, but often, that urgency left me scattered and unsettled.
In 2019, a pivotal moment arrived. I began therapy, initially under the impression that I was doing it for my daughter. I was convinced she needed it, but as I dug deeper, I discovered a painful truth: she needed therapy because of me. I had, without realizing it, become the mirror for her struggles, an echo of my own unresolved pain. As any parent can understand, there’s nothing more desperate than the drive to protect your child. In my case, it meant learning to shield her from the parts of me that were hurting, from the patterns I’d unconsciously projected onto her.
Therapy became a space where I could face the raw and unfiltered parts of my past. I learned about trauma and the ways it can shape us, about emotional intelligence and the gentle art of understanding our inner world, and about inner child healing, recognizing the neglected parts of ourselves that still hold on to old wounds. Each session was a step toward realizing that many of my fractured relationships stemmed from a profound lack of self-love. I was searching desperately for love in the world, unaware that the love I craved was already right there, within me.
This journey wasn’t just about acquiring tools for resilience; it was about unearthing a deeper understanding of who I truly was. The process taught me that self-love isn’t a destination or a fleeting emotion but a continuous act of self-compassion. It’s about accepting every flaw, every mistake, and every moment of vulnerability as part of a larger mosaic that makes us whole. Embracing this truth transformed me, guiding me to a place of authenticity and strength I never knew existed.
That shift to finally believe that nurturing self-love is the most profound kind of love, has redefined my life, my relationships, and my path forward. It’s a journey that continues to evolve, a daily commitment to honoring the love and resilience within me.
I’m sure it wasn’t obstacle-free, but would you say the journey has been fairly smooth so far?
Whew! It’s been everything but smooth! You remember me telling you I used to be irrational and impulsive, right? Hear me when I say this, I hit roadblock after roadblock. Detours. Stumbling blocks. And most of them? I created myself, chasing what I wanted without a plan, without pause, without considering the cost.
I stayed in relationships that drained me, that didn’t align with who I was or who I was becoming. And as much as I hate to admit it, those choices came with heartbreak. I experienced three miscarriages, and it broke me in a way I didn’t know I could be broken. I was left feeling depressed, discouraged, and completely disconnected from myself.
And the financial decisions? Let’s just say I was spending money like it grew on trees and reality hit hard after the fact. I was emotionally worn out, mentally exhausted, and spiritually empty. I kept trying to pour from a cup that had nothing left in it.
Appreciate you sharing that. What else should we know about what you do?
I am a Personal Development Coach and Wine Enthusiast with a heart for helping people get back to who they really are. As a coach, I guide individuals in releasing the limiting beliefs that keep them stuck so they can stop playing small and start owning their worth. I have deemed this year “Step Out Season.”
And when it comes to wine? That’s my other love. I’m passionate about breaking the myth that great wine has to come with a hefty price tag. I love introducing people to quality wines from family-owned vineyards, the kind that care about craft, not just mass production. It’s about shifting the experience, one glass at a time, and showing my community how to enjoy wine that feels just as rich in culture as it does in taste.
What were you like growing up?
I remember being that vibrant little girl in elementary school, curious, full of spunk, and always ready to shine. But everything shifted when I moved to Georgia. My dark complexion became the punchline, and with a last name like White, the jokes were nonstop. That constant teasing chipped away at me. Low self-esteem settled in early, and truthfully, I carried it with me through high school… and if we’re being honest, well into my 40s.
Dance was my escape. I joined the dance team in high school and even coached my own team after graduation. Movement gave me freedom, but emotionally? I was still heavy. I spent most of my younger years angry instead of happy, and that’s exactly why this journey of self-discovery and self-love means so much to me. I’m not just healing for myself. I’m healing for that little girl who just wanted to feel seen, accepted, and enough.
Contact Info:
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/_psychowine
Image Credits
www.instagram.com/antjohnsphotos
