Meet Ebony Spivey of Atlanta

Today we’d like to introduce you to Ebony Spivey.

Hi ebony, thanks for joining us today. We’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.
i grew up in a small town in the south where the Bible was heavily pushed. whether you went to Church or not, you knew plenty of scriptures. i always knew i was a feminine being, but i always felt like it was so wrong to live my life as a woman since i was born male. as time went on, and i grew older, the femininity didn’t go away. it actually grew stronger. i worked at the local outback in my city where i felt a bit more freedom to be myself, and this was also during covid. i ended my senior year of highschool during covid, which wasn’t a terrible thing for someone queer like myself. i could really grow into who i wanted to be. i was 18, making big bucks serving at outback, and it was the first time i didn’t feel like the chubby awkward gay guy. after 2 years i quit outback and starting working closer to the city. people were assuming my pronouns were she/her 70% of the time, regardless of knowing i identified as he/him. little did i know, i actually quite enjoyed being referred to as she/her. the longer i worked in the city, the greater the desire became to transition. so when i was 20 i started hormones and officially started going by she/her pronouns. each year i just became more and more confident especially after starting the gym and exposing myself to spaces i thought i would be shunned in. now i’m sharing my life online and hoping to gain a community of people just like me!

Can you talk to us a bit about the challenges and lessons you’ve learned along the way. Looking back would you say it’s been easy or smooth in retrospect?
it was smooth for the most part. i struggled more internally than externally. i had an incredible support system. if im ugly i would never know because people in my life only ever speak well of me to me. internally i struggled with being passable, pretty, feminine enough, the feeling of needing to change my body, relationship struggles.

Can you tell our readers more about what you do and what you think sets you apart from others?
i am a bartender for my day (night) job. i should say i specialize in fine wine and decadent food, but i honestly specialize in making people happy. i can make drinks and suggest food but im not the best at remembering what a “romesco” or “cascabel” sauce is. i’m proud to be a way of sunshine that walks in the restaurant because where i lack in knowledge, i make up for in being able to make someone smile. i feel like im one of the few people at my job that genuinely cares about making someone happy.

Is there anyone you’d like to thank or give credit to?
#1. my mom, even though she can annoy the crap out of me… there’s nothing like a mothers support during a transition. i’ve had to watch her grow as well because at the early stages she even admitted she “couldn’t” call me her daughter. but now she sees me for exactly who i am and has even stated she wouldn’t have it any other way.

#2 my bestie Jessica. we’ve been friends over a decade (since middle school). she has always cheered me on in every stage of my life and has even defended me in to her family about referring to me by the proper pronouns. without her or my mom idk how i would be strong enough to keep going

#3 my cousin shianne. we talk everyday and she constantly reassures me that i am “that girl.” she sees me for who i am and she is definitely owed some credit for helping me stay strong along this journey

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• Instagram: eb.spivey
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